8 Things We Can Actually Learn From Machiavelli’s “The Prince”

1. You can’t please everyone. (The need to avoid contempt and hatred).

Machiavelli constantly noted that it is impossible for a Prince to satisfy both his subjects and his nobles at the same time. The prince would have to sacrifice the needs of one for the other.

Stating clear examples from history, Machiavelli also used the Romans as a case study. He stated that aside from the subjects and nobles, Roman emperors still had soldiers to deal with.

In a modern world view, people wrestle with the notion that they can try to make everyone happy. With some accepting that they would have to displease one in order to please the other, others still hang on to the illusion that they can satisfy everyone. As noted by Machiavelli, trying to please everyone ultimately leads to disaster.

2. Being generous all the time is being stupid all the time. (Generosity and Parsimony)

It’s no rare thing to find fundamentally good people. People who display extraordinary attributes of altruism that surpass even the likes of religious clerics, which is a good thing. But giving away more than you have can be self defeating.

According to Machiavelli, in people’s efforts to become generous, they lose the ability to do so. That simply means that you can only be generous until you lose everything you can be generous with.

He emphasized that the people considered extremely generous in history only did so with what didn’t belong to them in the first place. He cited figures such as Alexander the great, Cyrus and Julius Caesar who were more liberal with what wasn’t their own.

There’s nothing bad in being generous. If you have enough to give, then by all means, do so. But if don’t, do not risk your well-being and that of your family’s for someone else.

It is important to also note that Machiavelli noticed how quickly people can turn on you if you tell them “no”. You become either poor or despised, “seeking to escape poverty”.

3. People cannot be trusted (Cruelty and Compassion)

This is harsh but true. Machiavelli strongly objected to promises made with just words. They could be easily broken.

His words were: “Men are ungrateful, fickle, liars and deceiver. They shun danger and are greedy for profit. While you treat them well, they are yours… But when you are in danger, they turn you away” those words deeply and quite aggressively reflected his views on humanity. But his stance on trust was somewhat accurate.

You should not depend entirely on trust. If you do, be ready to get your heart broken.

4. Education is important (How a prince should organize his militia)

Machiavelli’s idea of education was taking military exercises in the art of war during and after wartime.

He stated how important it is for a prince to know more about war and historical events based on war.

Similarly, in our generation, education is equally important. Knowledge has become more powerful than ever. And what is the best way of acquiring knowledge than education?

You don’t need to know about the art of war, it’s execution and implementation. But learning how to read and write is of equal importance.

5. Always expect the unexpected. (How a prince should organize his militia)

Philopoemen, as cited by Machiavelli, was praised for thinking of war during peacetime. He casually engaged in conversations about military strategy amongst friends.

You have to expect an unexpected change in your life at an unexpected point, one you could not have foreseen. It is always wise to prepare for them.

Setting aside money for an unforeseeable financial problem in the future would be the modern day equivalent to expecting the unexpected. Just like Philopomen.

6. You cannot be all good (and it’s okay). (The things for which men, and especially princes are praised or blamed)

In an era where black is white and white is black and it’s near impossible to tell one from the other, we are often faced with moral ambiguity.

Should I do the “right” thing and hurt someone else in the process? What exactly is the right thing in the first place?. Well Machiavelli says it’s okay. No one is all good.

He enumerated qualities such as faithfulness, courageousness, frivolousness and religiousness. It is laudable for a prince to have them, but due to the “conditions of the world”, princes cannot have those qualities and observe them completely.

Real life is complex and it is not without his drawbacks.

7. Decisiveness and Conviction. (how a prince must win honour)

According to Machiavelli, there’s danger in neutrality and being completely at someone else’s mercy.

Delaying a problem doesn’t actually help you in any way. Indecision equals failure. That’s not ruling out patience completely which is instrumental in solving the problem. But there’s a fine line between patience and delay.

A problem is better solved when confronted.

8. Having a reputation for cruelty is hazardous (The need to avoid contempt and hatred)

Most people do not make it their life’s mission to be known as cruel. They might consider themselves as being strict or forward, but others might see them as bad, wicked and cruel.

Knowingly or not, being cruel is bad in any century. Machiavelli knew this and discuss the topic at length.

A prince, according to him, must always try to avoid being hated and despised by his subjects. Otherwise he risks a rebellion or an uprising.

“Cruelty” is a word that probably comes to mind when discussing Machiavelli and as evidenced in his works about how morality can be altered, it’s not so surprising. But he also noted how cruelty has incited revolutions and brought down empire s. The lesson here is, always try to be kind..

Step By Step Guide To Stop Feeling Insecure In Relationships

In order to learn how to reduce insecurity, you must first begin to understand your self esteem. Self belief, begins early in life. Low self esteem is the product of your upbringing and life experiences and manifests in loss of trust, self worth and self confidence.

Feelings of insecurity are learnt along our journey when you (incorrectly) learn through negative experiences to connect negative events to being rejected.

For instance, as a child, you learn to feel insecure if you are brought up with caregivers engaging in inconsistent parenting. This happens when your parents’ or guardians’ disciplines in an inconsistent manner. This inconsistency results from parenting being mood dependent, rather than consistently being based on particular rules, norms or expectations.

At school this inconsistency is highlighted on a regular basis amongst friendships. Children are going through so many hormonal and emotional changes at school, that emotional reactions and hurt feelings occur daily, if not weekly. If you were taught to perceive these changes as simply emotional and not personal, your self esteem would stay in tact. However, often children internalise these daily rejections to mean they are not liked or unwanted. Even after children make-up (which also happens daily), they can be left with the scars of potential rejection. Children then learn early how to ‘walk on eggshells’ to avoid being rejected again.

Examples of how self doubt can manifest are as follows:

– A close friend gets angry any time you have to say “no” to doing something with her, regardless of your reason
– Your partner yells at you every time he is overtired or stressed out
– A mother in your mothers group argues against every opinion you have about parenting
– Someone close to you ignores you when you are in a group
– Your x-partner cheats on you, so you become paranoid every partner will cheat on you in the future

Reducing self doubt and worry with significant people in your life

The above points highlight negative behaviours that can lead to the development of fear of rejection. Each of these examples highlights other people’s behaviours, which were internalised incorrectly as self-blame. However, this internalisation was incorrect. The examples above would best have been internalised as external responses resulting from the other person’s personal issues. Let’s quickly dissect each example:

A close friend gets angry
This is a reflection of your friend’s issues and has nothing to do with your behaviour. You have a right to say “no” when you are busy too

Your partner yells at you
His/her moods are dictating his reactions towards you. His moods are the issue, not your behaviours

A mother in your mothers group argues against you
This is a reflection of the mother either feeling intimidated by your opinions, or insecure about your role within the group. You have a right to have a different opinion to hers

Your close friend ignores you in a group
This is either an oversight, or the other person is overcompensating for their own insecurities, or jealousy, by focussing on those who may need more work to become close friends or family

Your x-partner cheats on you
This is a reflection of your x-partner and has no bearing on you. Regardless of anything occurring within the relationship, cheating is only the fault of the person engaging in the behaviour

The Top 5 Answers To Reduce Anxiety With Your Partner

1. Rebuilding your self esteem to ensure you have the strength to cope when things go wrong and to be resilient to negative experiences

2. Questioning honestly whether someone’s behaviour is a reflection of their issues (not yours)

3. Trusting in yourself and in your instincts

4. Being open and honest with those you care about to express how you’re feeling and question inappropriate behaviour

5. Living in the world of facts, not perception. So you only act on your concerns when you are 100% confident your judgement is accurate (e.g. ask if necessary before you act).

The most important thing is to believe that insecurity is not a healthy emotion and leads to negative and destructive behaviours. It’s not your fault that you feel this way, but as an adult you have the choice of either continuing to feed this, or challenging it and overcoming in. In doing the latter you will enrich your relationships, enhance your career and live a much more healthy, happy and successful life.

Dell XPS 27 Guide – A Must-Have All-In-One With Amazing Audio Setup & Stunning Display

The new Dell XPS 27 all-in-one features a vivid 4K display and crisp-sounding speakers. This colossal 27-inch display is also available as a touchscreen version. With an articulating stand, it can actually lay flat on its back. If you don’t want to use it as a giant tablet, you can save money by ordering the non-touch version, in which case you’ll still get a wireless keyboard and mouse. The keyboard comes with dedicated media control buttons and a number pad.

If music and audio are important to you, you’ll be glad to know that the new XPS 27 AiO is built with ten speakers, including four full-range drivers and two tweeters lined under the screen. There are two passive radiators for enhanced bass and two downward-firing speakers.

This is actually the first PC in the world with two independent, down-firing speakers offering full-range capabilities. The tweeters produce crystal clear voices and clean high notes with accurate stereo imaging. The volume is exceptionally loud – even when turned down to just 10%, it can still be heard from across the room.

What kind of specs does this machine come with?

• 6th generation Intel core i7 processor (6700)

• 16GB memory (2133MHz DDR4)

• 2TB SATA hard drive 6GBs

• 27-inch 4K ultra-HD display (non-touch and touch both available)

• AMD R9 video card 4GB (M470X GDDR5)

• Operating system: Windows 10 Home (64-bit)

• Camera: 720p webcam featuring Infrared with face recognition and quad-array digital microphones

Despite all of these components, the unit still manages a relatively slim bezel.

Dell XPS 27 Weight and IPS Technology

The non-touch model weighs 28.7-lbs and the touchscreen model weighs 38.2-lbs due to the latter’s more complex stand.

The IPS technology allows you to view images on the display from any angle in the room, and delivers the same vibrant color consistency (up to 350-nit). The color is incomparable; the Dell XPS 27 covers a wide color gamut and is capable of producing shades of color outside of all conventional panels. Images, colors and video appear amazingly lifelike with over 1 billion colors.

With 4-DIMM slots, you can add additional memory (up to 32GB) to easily toggle between applications and manage larger files efficiently. You can also expand storage, thanks to two hard drive bays and an SSD drive bay.

Thanks to the discrete graphics and i7 processor, this AiO performs well in graphics-based benchmarks. Even though it’s not advertised as being a gaming PC, it can still be used as one for the casual gamer who isn’t too picky. Dell XPS 27 reviews are primarily praising the sound and speaker system along with the crisp display and expandability options.

Finding Dell deals is easy, as the company frequently gives out discounts on its merchandise. Don’t let the price of this all-in-one be a deciding factor – all you need is a Dell XPS 27 discount code, and you can get it at an affordable price.